May 18, 2014

Margaret Velma Arellano

     (pic: Margaret N of Phx)    Page first posted in mid 2011.

Margaret V. Arellano was born March 6th, 1956 in S.E. Phoenix AZ to Manual
and Mary (Medina) Arellano. Her father. Manuel, was from Texas; Mary (or her parents), also, from Texas. She had about 8 sisters and 2 brothers; all were raised speaking both Spanish and English.

Falling off a teeter-totter at age 8, resulted in life-long epilepsy.
Her attempts to hold a job following 3 years of college were dashed by this
primary affliction.

With her older sisters all married, she tried marriage four times, encompassing
about a total of four-five years of married life altogether. Spurred partly by step-
father problems, Margaret briefly married a Native American man while still
attending high school. Her three subsequent, brief husbands were white.

Bubbling over with delight, Margaret came prancing across the hospital ward
floor to meet Heatherly, on or about, July 1st 1981. (She and all but one of
her sisters favored white boys.) They both were quite smitten by the meeting.
She was released after 3 days; but he located her thru an old phone number
about a year later. Following about 3 weekly visits to her apartment, he took
a studio apartment next to her one bedroom. LS and Margaret attempted
a romantic relationship that LS left fully unconsummated for over 15 years. Factors were her marriages, 2 lingering old flames, old buddies, her nature as a tomboy, as well as Heatherly's marriage to his mission for humanity. 

While living briefly in adjacent apartments, she was fresh out of a marriage,
and marriage minded;  while LS, simply, sought her as a long-term, girlfriend
and sister-cousin largely missing in his childhood and adulthood development. After two months mixed with needed growth, fulfillment, as well as, frustration;
he told her that their special, beautiful friendship should be saved and
cherished. And to that end, he would revert back to visiting her weekly instead
of daily. He very quickly became her confidant. LS had become quickly popular with some of her family, attending family parties about once per month (siblings included an editor, lawyer, counselor, small business owner, police officer, He attended a family softball game and was by acclamation, appointed pitcher owing to his accurate pitching of hit-able balls over the plate. They called him "scoop": having the scoop on any subject!

Margaret was puzzled and frustrated by his reserve toward her; but he had grown up without a sister; hence, that was his nature with women-- he was slow with women and was never to move in with one.

She was short on communication skills. Two sisters told her: "He loves
you!". Heatherly's anthropological, psychological, sociocultural,
philosophical mind and heart had long needed affection, for and from,
a unique, special, girl like her. She added to his regeneration after earlier months
of decline in his general health and well-being. She, as well, strengthened
the ongoing, psychological-spiritual-ontological-ecological-philosophical
pathway of one original, maverick's deep, wide Earthly soul on a
"ground-breaking" literary mission for humankind's well-being and
humanity's conservation and restoration. Her heart, and soul had their
reasons, as well, for their special friendship. She sent some 90-100 cards and notes the first 7-8 years! These served as memory re-runs for LS after she was gone; along with 200 other memories.

Earnestly, LS plunged into probing and discovering the natures of this
unique young woman's mind, heart, life-world, development and soul.
Many times after the 1st year, he said "I could write a book about
this unique, struggling, triumphant, beautiful, female soul midst the
chaos called "the greatest nation on Earth."(updated description of her)
But he was carrying a long gestating book, now appoaching term.
It is no exaggeration to say that her entrance into his heart and
self-life-world (acknowledged in his book) was one key relationship
of midwifery for the deliverance of his major work, The Last Human

After about 9 months, their housing units went up for sale.
Whereupon, LS located an apartment she liked and helped her
make the move; as well as four other times in her life. Like close
cousins, (sometimes sweethearts), they continued their special friendship based on errands in his old cars and various outings once every 3 weeks for many years. Later on, 6 -12 times per year. On the fly, he took many more
pics of her than anyone in his life. The early part of this 23 year
period, entailed her last 2 brief marriages. She was a bus person;
LS a good, old car-person. Of Heatherly's few girlfriends in life
Margaret was the rooted, deepest and longest in his heart and soul.
Both he and her were not the marrying kind; and after her marriages, she
came to accept this about her life as innate with her handicaps.
Pics are worth 1000s of words ; (top) LS and Margaret 1993 at West Clear Creek; (mid-left): Margaret at sisters's Wedding age 12?; (lower left: Margaret glows in AZ Desert Sunset 1989; (mid right) : N. Phx in Starlight-- eyes for LS! 1988! (bottom right): Margaret in cut offs at W. Clear Creek 2001!


May 2, 2014

Yes Virginia! Youth, Age, Heart, Time and Home!

                         By  L. S. Heatherly

Going back, and getting down to Earth-- our life within Her Life!

Calendar time is not the fullest measure of how old we are.
This tells us our age as measured by the mostly life-less solar system's measure!

We live on Earth, within Her systems! Not within the life-less solar system.
Calendars don't tell us the measure of a particular human being's
Length of time within Earth's living human being!

A mere measure of youth and age as Earth-solar cycles!
The truest measure is human being's passage through life and love!

Our passage is within Earth-life's eco-organismic,  field of living beings--
Within a particular family, community and particular, human socio-culture.

Beyond the solar system's measure of our age--
How many trips around the Sun we have experienced--
We each have biological age, psychological, social, and spirit-ontological age.

Our bio age is how well our dying cells have been replaced with new cells.
Our psychological age is how well our mental and emotional needs have been fulfilled.
Our social age is how well our social, developmental needs have been fulfilled.
Our spiritual-ontological age is how well our heart-soul needs have been fulfilled.

People die from two primary deficiencies:
Of full, rich blood to the organs,
And of full, rich love to our eco-social, and  heart-soul relationships.

Our age-- of persons, and, of our human species,
Is a family-community, living Earth-love thing!
Ah, beyond history's serial, greedy flings!

Yes, Virginia, there is a true, human heart, age,
Time, being, place and home of which to sing!
Squandered, now,  we have little left of precious these.

Copyright 2014  L.S. Heatherly